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Results
of my Research
to Western men |
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Nationality
| 1位、USA(incl Hawaii) |
48 |
| 2位、England |
14 |
| 3位、Canada |
8 |
| Australia |
7 |
| 4位、France |
6 |
| 5位、NewZealand |
5 |
| 6位、Italia |
4 |
| Spain |
4 |
| 7位、Holland(Netherlands) |
2 |
| Danmark |
2 |
| 8位 Brazil |
1 |
| Ghana |
1 |
| Dublin Ireland |
1 |
| Austlia |
1 |
| Poland |
1 |
| Germany |
1 |
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18 |
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Age
| １位、25〜29yo |
29 |
| 2位、30〜34yo |
28 |
| 3位、35〜39yo |
14 |
| 4位、20〜24yo |
10 |
| 40〜44yo |
10 |
| 5位、45〜49yo |
2 |
| 6位、 〜19yo |
1 |
| 7位、50〜 |
1 |
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35 |
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What is Japanese woman's strong attractive point for you?
What make you feel fascination to Japanese woman? |
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| Ranking by wards |
some comments of western men
who live in Japan |
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beautiful/beauty
keep their beauty longer than western women
much better looking than most other countries girls / best looking in the
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| japanese woman's strong points are your youth and beauty and you act so
femmine (New Zealander) |
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I see your smile and that makes me feel warm and comfortable...Japanese girls are sweet and have a beautiful hair
Japanese girl is so sweet I think. (Australian) |
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| Everything about Japanese women is attractive in my eyes! Physically and mentally beautiful. I love the shape of face and body and the polite and interesting personalities (American) |
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| Many Japanese women are very beautiful and charming. They are usually not aggressive and even if they are very intelligent and successful, they don't challenge men or try to compete with them. They can be strong and independent without losing their feminine qualities. This is very attractive (for me!) (English) |
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A Japanese woman has everything a western man needs: beauty, intelligence, open, very sexy, self motivation, fashionable, desirable, loyal, loving and very very caring.
I personally do not know another race of women that have 'all' these factors. It is a direct result of the Japanese mix of tradition and modernisation in the modern woman. I have also never seen a country with more beautiful women in terms of how the dress, elegance, femininity and pride in their appearance. It can put some western women to shame really. Every japanese woman I see wants to be somebody and it comes across in their appearance (English) |
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| Japanese women are very attractive, sweet, caring and slender. I think their best point is they are kind and thoughtful. Each woman is unique, though, so attractive points are different for each woman (American) |
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| Japanese women have a very different attitude than western women. Japanese women are mysterious. Japanese women in general keep their beauty longer than western women (Canadian) |
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| Japanese woman is PERFECT..ahaha.. I'm joking but not completely. I love Japanese woman for their sensibility, they are sweet and intelligent and of courrse their beauty (French) |
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atractive, physically atractive, fascination, physical appearance |
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smoother, soft , beautiful skin |
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beautiful, sexy, deep brown, incredible eyes |
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| 5位、 |
feminine, elegance
put more effort into looking feminine
possess a certain quality of feminity |
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dark, black, beautiful, shiny smooth hair |
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slender, slim, pretty good body, nice body,
pride in their appearance,petit body, take good care of themself |
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great fashion sense, fashionable
always wear nice clothes |
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sweet, caring, charming, loving |
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| 10位、 |
strong, strength |
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| 11位、 |
sexy, exotic |
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| 12位、 |
intelligence |
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serious about love, love me back so much,
she makes you feel special as a man
she makes you feel you're the one
treat a guy how he should be treated
flexible about what a man wants |
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not agressive
they dont challenge men or complete with them
they dont have the vindictive attitude towards their BFs that western women
have |
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youthful, look young, youth |
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thoughtful, respectful, honorable, kind, polite |
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loyal, loyality more than other women in other countries / sincere |
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| 18位、 |
mysterious |
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| 19位、 |
interessting personality, never bored together, enjoy |
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open minded |
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| Do you think that you do marry with Japanese woman and build family with
someday? |
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| American's answer |
definitely...I want to have that one woman in my life that just makes me melt and a family to cherish.
Yes. If I meet the right woman!!
yes. i believe i will marry japanese woman and have family. i plan on raising my family in japan.
I think that I will marry a japanese woman in the future. I actually just ended a relationship with one, but I don't have doubts about meeting another great japanese woman in the future
I hope so.
Yes..
Probably not
I do not think I will marry a Japanese woman. I came close one time but the culture is the exact opposite of my culture. I'm Italian-American and we are very affectionate and open whereas Japanese culture is very reserved and not openly affectionate. I can never get used to that. I love Japanese women but will most likely marry an Italian woman
Well, now I am single, so I can't say that I will marry a Japanese woman, but I thought I would in the past. If the question is "could I marry a Japanese woman" then the answer is definately yes.
The answer to that is easy: YES - I already did that. I'm sad that she and I were not a good match and could not make each other happy. But I hope to find another special lady someday.
of course : the point of marriage is to build a family ;-)
Definitely with someone attractive like you.
probably.
God, I hope so.
My dream is to find the right J lady and to spend the rest of my life with her.
It's hard to say since not many Japanese woman like the cold in the winter where I live but time will tell.
Family would be an important part of a relationship with a Japanese woman
Time will tell...
What ever happens you never know what destiny may bring you
I do not think that marriage and a family is for everyone. A problem with society is that people think they have to get married and have kids to *complete their life*. As of right now, I do not think I am ready to consider marriage and kids. But who knows what the future holds. |
| English's answer |
Yes, I really do hope so.
Perhaps, one day.
If possible, but it's hard to meet the right one...
Deep down in my heart I know I can fall very deeply for a J-lady. But the issue is who, is she going to be able to bridge the communication and culture gap? I think for me its all about 'education'. A lasting multi-cultural relationship will be about both individuals having similar backgrounds, wealth and education in their own countries. If this is way out of balance, it will cause instability in the relationship and ultimately de-rail it. e.g. An investment banker in Tokyo with a Ginza girl - could be a good fit, but actually no its dreadful for a lasting relationship. Casual fun is ok ( which is what both parties in that situation would want anyway I presume).
Actually, before I came to Japan I doubted my feelings about J-women. Now I am here again, I am having a really difficult time to be honest.
I mean I walk around Shibuya and places and its very easy for a guy to be in a 'trance' state when seeing so many beautiful girls. But actually all this is very superficial. I have not seen or met many ladies with elegance and class and maturity yet. I havent been here long ! I hope I get to meet the right one someday ! :) Wish me luck !!
Will marry a woman (not specifically Japanese) and build a family.
Honestly I don't think so, don't have much luck with girls, think I will be alone long time |
| Other European's answer |
So eventually I will marry a Japanese woman. (Spanish)
WHY NOT- COULD BE!!!(Austria)
Well I want kids and I want my kids to have a stable youth so that's in a family. ANd as describe dabove a Japanese woman has much to offwer, so if it would be with a Japanese I could be happy with that!(Holland)
yeah of course.(Denmark)
The future will tell.... Right now, living in Japan, there is good chance that I end up that way.....(^u^) but you never know who will enter your life....(France)
One day I could marry that special women (Dublin Ireland) |
| Oceanian's answer |
Yes.(AU)
Finally Yes I hope to marry one day and start a family.(AU)
Maybe. But satisfied with things as they are now ;) (AU)
yes i belive that i will marry a japanese woman and build a family soon.(NZ) |
| Canadian's answer |
I think so if its the right girl
I certainly hope so. |
| Other's answer |
well since i am living here now i would love marry a Japanese lady and have a nice familly , i do meet someone here who i really would love , and would love me that way too.
The future is always unclear. However, if a Japanese Woman were to capture my heart, then I would not deny her ^_^. |
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but she won't be your typical (thinking) japanes girl. She'll have some western influence... but only in the way she views relationships... and in her idea of fairness.. to long of a story to explain.
Yes, I do.
it's not what i believe, it's the only one future possible !!! i never see tomorrow different !!!
Yes (2)
I hope so, but it will not crush my heart if the person is not Japanese. Certainly I will marry and certainly I will build a family
It's quite possible if they don't want to rush into marriage so quickly, family comes right after marriage for me there's no large gap. Do one then the other, and when a girl wants to marry a few months after becoming serios , it's too scary for me!
"A perfect marriage is not when the perfect couple marry, but when the imperfect couple marry and easily accept the differences in each other"
Yes, probably.
maybe!!! sorry, no help there, honestly i dont know |
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| Where do you prefer to live if you married to Japanese woman? |
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Ranking
| 1位、Japan |
| 2位、anything ok |
| 3位、husband's country |
| 4位、at first in Japan then move to husband's country |
5位、up to her
both countries (Japan & husband's country) |
| 6位、third country (not Japan, not his country) |
| 7位、we will decide |
8位、not Japan
depend on her, his job, kids
depend on kids
at first his country then move to another country then Japan
husband's country.. but if she really wants to live in Japan then live in Japan
Europe(not must husband's country of Europe) but also can live in Japan for 2 years or so
Japan but if wife want to live in foreign country then live there
already living in husband's country, but love to live in Japan for a few years |
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| What is it? If there are something which Japanese women should be changed?
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| ♂ I think Japanese women could learn to be a little more direct and less quiet. They are often viewed by people in the West as very passive and doing whatever the man says. Where as, Chinese girls are much more bold and strong in sharing their opinions. Western men are use to women being their equals, so they enjoy it when their woman has an opinion about life and is confident. |
| もっと思っていることをダイレクトに話して、そんなに大人しくしないで |
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| ♂ I appreciate it when women are blunt with me. If they don't want anything to do with me just tell me and if you want everything to do with me than tell me as well. |
| blunt=鈍い、刃のない、弱い |
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| ♂ I think Japanese women should not be so trusting of foreign men. If they did, more REAL men would respect them. Right now it seems alot of players go to Japan it seems. |
| 日本に来ている外国人をそう簡単に信じないで |
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| ♂ speak your mind. |
| 思っていることをちゃんと口にして |
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| ♂ I think that maybe some Japanese woman need to be more open and direct about their feeling and what they are thinking. In my experience some women don't openly say what they think or feel and expect you to just know. That is often hard to do when you have 2 people from different cultural back grounds that see and interpret things very differently sometimes. Good open communication from both people is really needed. |
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| ♂ Just have an honest and mature conversation about it. In the West, people appreciate directness especially when it comes to a serious issue. I would say be honest and communicate clearly and directly as long as you say it respectfully this is the best way. |
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| ♂ Behave normally...and I'll watch ;) |
| 自然に振舞って |
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| ♂ Japanese ladies are beautiful as they are. Just they should realize it is 2007 and they are not pets. Contribution to the family is necessary. |
| contribution = 貢献 |
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| ♂ I like the behavior of Japanese women, however, they must ask "MANY" more questions to gaijin before getting involved. Maybe become stronger, without losing the innocence and sincererity that attracts us to them. |
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| ♂ don't judge by race. |
| 人種で判断しないて |
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| ♂ Be more independent and think for herself. |
| もっと自立して、自分自身のことを考えて |
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| ♂ Definitely learn to walk properly in high heels, or stop wearing them. Generally take more pride in themselves, and stop relying on hair dye, thick make-up, mass produced designer clothes and accessories, and speaking in silly high pitched voices so as to appear lesser human beings than their male friends. Strength and confidence! |
おおっと！かなり言われてしまいました σ（^◇^；；
ハイヒールを履いたときの歩き方が不細工ってことですね。確かにそう思います。Kaori もしょっちゅうKaoriママに指摘されます・・外見ばかりにとらわれずに、もっと自分自身に強くなって自信を持ちなさい！って感じネ。。 |
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| ♂ Honestly, I don't much like the idea that one should have to change major points about themselves just to please their other half, unless it's a mutual agreement. Still, if I had to say one thing I might want to see altered a bit in a Japanese woman... perhaps I'd ask that she be a little less shy than usual and have a bit more confidence. |
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| ♂ Not faking |
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| ♂ I think a lot of women hide their true feelings because they are scared
to offend or scare away the man. I think being more open and honest would be good. |
| 男性に離れて欲しくないとか、気分を害したくないとかの理由でも、もっと正直になって気持ちをごまかさないで |
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| ♂ relax, don't be so nervous. don't be afraid to approach a guy (like me) and ask for a number... lot of guys are to nervous to approach Japanese girls so take action. and learning some english helps also, thats why im learning japanese. |
| リラックスして、そんなに不安がらないで。。自分から男性に電話番号を聞くことをためらわないで。多くの男性達も日本人の女の子にアタックすることに不安になってるんだから、女の子たちからも行動をおこして〜 英語も勉強してくれるとより助かるよ〜 |
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| ♂ Learn how to say your true feelings, and do not be afraid to move around a bit during sex. |
| この意味を聞きました。。要はマグロちゃんにならないで〜 とのことでした σ（^◇^；； |
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| ♂ Well i think the most difficult for gajin man with japanese girl is th e lack of expression. Did you like this... did you like that...do you love me...do you like me..do I look good, . I know it jas not always a meaning but in many ways I remained puzzled..more complicated then the above examples. |
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| ♂ have to try anything... |
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| ♂ A woman should never have to change for a man. That wouldn't be love. |
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| ♂ They should change thinking that they need to wear short skirts, tight tops to impress men. Not all men want their girls to look like slut. |
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| ♂ Umm...there are a lot of things...I'm sorry to say that a lot of Japanese girls that I meet don't seem to use there brain much, and don't seem that worldly (or Japanesely ie they don't seem to know much about Japan either), and I do realize that Japan esp in the past has been a very closed society, and that Japan is not an English speaking country so Western culture is not so easily know, but many girls just don't seem to know much about anything, and that’s a bit turn off for me. I know that is not true of all girls, I've met some great Jp girls, but that’s my major complaint with a lot of them (sorry). |
| これはずばり当たっていると思います。日本人の女の子はビューティーやロマンスに重きをおいていて、世の中で起こっていることや、自分達の国、日本のことを知らなさ過ぎるのだと。。外国の方たちは、本当に歴史や文化に興味があり、それを知りたがっています。 文化や伝統のことなど、自分の興味のある分野からでも説明して上げれるような知的な日本人女性になりたいものですね。。 |
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| ♂ maybe Japanese women should focus a tiny little bit less on appearances and material things. Of course some women are not like that but I am talking about the "average woman". |
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| ♂ Change nothing,,,,,,,,,,,,,, What they are and how they treat their men makes them special. I love all Japanese women because of how they are. When I am dating a Japanese woman, she makes me feel special and very cared for. |
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| ♂ Less shy, more openminded - realize their potential |
| potential=可能性 |
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| ♂ Japanese woman should just be herself. Be totaly honest and tell your
man the way you feel and what you are thinking. You can get what you want
by comunicating with your man. If not you are with the wrong person. |
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| ♂ Should take care of own health |
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| ♂ In my case change to like the 2 month's of cold weather and 2 month's
of cool weather. |
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| ♂ She should be herself. Don't be fake or something she's not. |
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| ♂ She should just be herself, and we will work through the communication. |
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What is the difference between casual GF and serious GF ?
What you do with serious one but don't do with the other ? |
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| Serious GF is more like a relationship that where you spend alot more time together, going to more places and basically can turn into a long term relationship. |
The difference is a casual GF is temporary and usually one of a couple of casual GF's. Someone to hang out with every once in awile. |
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| A serious girlfriend is someone that I openly express my love to, and let anyone know that I care for her as my girlfriend. I would treat both the same way, and I will only have one girlfriend of any kind at any time. never two. |
a casual girlfriend is someone that I have geniune interest in, but we just haven't declared ourselves as official yet. |
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| A serious relationship is usually one where the two people expect comittment and devotion from the other, to the exclusion of others. |
A casual relationship is one where there are no promises or comittments but the two people enjoy each others company and respect each other (even if they have other relationships) |
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| A serious gf is where bth parties are very loyal and trusting of each other. They may even love each other. |
A casual gf is normally a girl who doesnt mind being in an 'open' relationship where either person can have many partners, not restricting each other. |
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| With a serious girlfriend, I would tend to include them in my future plans. |
A casual girlfriend I probably wouldn't. |
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| Casual gf - dont get feelings for her, |
although serious gf, have feelings for her and lots of sex. |
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| Maybe the difference is that you don't want a spend a single minute without the serious one.... or want to share everything with her. |
I wouldn't introduce a casual GF to my parents or family, would not want to meet her parents as well, would not want to meet to often..... |
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| Serious is of course that next stage when you like eachother enough to be exclusive and not see anyone else. |
Casual girlfriend could be one of two things
a) Fuckbuddy, purely physical
b) Having a relationship that is just starting out, but not starting with any commitment, a kind of wait and see if we have enough to got to the next stage. |
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A serious girlfriend is the only girl you want at that time.
I think you probably spend more time with the serious one. |
A casual one means you can have other girls. The casual one is most likely only for going out drinking with occasionally and, of course, sex. |
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| a serious girlfriend - there is only one, she can move stuff into your apartment, have a key... whatever. |
a casual gf cant do that because there might be another girl so sometimes the have to hide.
dates can be just the same. |
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What type of Japanese woman are are easy(mean sleep with you so easily)?
For example..her job? fashion? hairstyle? talk? |
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 I have talk to many of my friends about this question and we all agree
that club girls are the type of girls that are thought of as easy. Girls that go to clubs every week and are getting drunk while dancing provocatively with random guys all the time. Many guys don't think girls like that are loyal and are easy to take home. Also dressing extremely sexy and showing off toomuch skin gives some guys the wrong idea about a woman. Clubbing is fine but the women you see in places like that all the time are thought to be easy by some. |
| As for being easy, I was talking with my female friends about that last night. Girls that look sexy usually are NOT easy and the cute girls that DONT look sexy are usually the easiest. |
| Easy girls... Usually ones you see at clubs or ones that talk about sex immediately. Haha. Easy enough, right? |
| I assume women like that just want to have sex with an attractive guy and I usually have to win girls over with humor so I couldn't tell you |
| Job im not sure abt, but fashion and hair would be shortskirts and boots and hair auburn with make up that makes the eyes bigger... but i dont think its so easy to classify really. |
| It depends on a lot of factors I think. Normally the type that are easy to sleep with are interested in a particular type, and will easily sleep with anybody that matches that type. For example, girls that like hip-hop will tend to sleep with black men easily. |
| It's hard to say. "Looks" can be deceiving. However, because we often judge people based on first impressions - often before we even attempt at getting to know them - I would have to say a woman's fashion is important. The way a person dresses can sometimes mean everything just as an image. |
| Usually-I think girls who I'm not actually that attracted to are the easiest to sleep with. Of course, since I don't sleep with women I'm not attracted to, I don't get laid as often as my friends with lower standards. |
| Easy..... an easy woman is a lonely and sad woman who wants a companion even if its only for a short time. |
| i think i can answer that, well first its how she dresses and appearance of course. cause that is the first thing a guy see's.. |
| Job: either in 外資系 or else フリーター, fashion is either super luxury-brand based or hippie style. Personality seems to be the biggest factor--girls that end up hooking up with foreign guys seem to be more assertive, which my Japanese guy friends have told me they hate. |
| You can usuallt ell the "easy" women by how they dress and act. |
| girls that are in party areas, roppongi of course, always go to gaijin bars...although every girl is different so hard to say.... |
| I am amazingly awful with women; generally, I guess all the factors you mentioned make me think a woman will be quick to sleep with ANOTHER man, though. For me... the conversation only. I know it's unfair, but I assume a girl with excessively expensive fashion sense, hair-style, and a freeter job is probably going to sleep around... just likely not with me. |
| Maybe fashion style could be a good sign... |
| have found a mix. I have dated women that want to have sex the first date
and they are conservative, high education, not really sexxy and cute and
some that are high fashion, sexxy hairstyle and cute that want to have
sex as soon as they meet you. I think it depends on the woman some woman
have deep feeling easy and want to show a man she wants to be with him
and others don’t. |
| I dont think Japanese women are easy - yes go to Roppongi and they will flock around you, but is that really the type you want to take home and have a relationship with ? |
| Japanese woman will let me know by her actions and talking that she wants to sleep with me. I can not Pre judge by your job or your looks that this girl will be easy to take to bed. When the feeling is mutual, make passion love like it will be your last time. |
| Japanese woman were not easy. |
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| Which life do you want either being with one special woman or being with
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| Obviously, one special woman's the best. But with that being said I must admit that I do want other women to find me attractive. I never want to be a playboy but I enjoy the company of women. Even if I get married I'd still like to have dinner with other women sometimes if they're nice. (American/33/live in Japan) |
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| I want a woman smart enough to take care of me and our kids even if I do not love her so much. "Funny girls" do not make my day. (maybe my nights...) (Spanish/32/kive in Japan) |
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| Having one special lady that loves me the same way I love her is the most important thing in my life.(American/25/live in Japan) |
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| ONLY ONE SPECIAL WOMAN FOREVER!!!!!but soooo difficult to find!!!! (Austrian/34/live in Japan) |
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| That's a difficult question for many men. I believe a man's nature is different to a woman's concerning relationships and love. A man can love a woman even if he sees other women or just has a physical relationship with other women. Most women cannot understand this. I think women have two elements - the heart and the mind. But men have three - the heart, the mind and sex. For both men and women, sex can be from the heart and mind (true love) but for men, they can also have sex wihtout the heart or mind. It's an instinct. can you understand this? (English/36/live in Jaoan) |
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| For my first year in Japan I just had lots of casual girlfriends. Now I am no longer interested in casual stuff and want to meet someone serious (but it's hard to do!). (English/35/live in Japan) |
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| Being with one special woman is definitely the answer on the long term.... though I can understand that being with many fun women might be good for a while. (French/30/live in Japan) |
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| I personally prefer being with one special woman, i think younger westerners who are traveling or teaching english in japan know they are there for a short time, so they would choose many fun women. When i lived in japan i knew many guys like this...(i hated them). (American/23/in USA) |
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| Ultimately there can be only one choice here. A life with one special lady of course, with a beautiful family to make me feel a proud father and husband, but the question is .....when, when is it the right time for any guy to settle down. To get to the bottom of that question is to warm a lot of J-ladies hearts in searching for their dream western man, who will treat them EQUALLY AND LIKE BEING IN A TEAM. (English/32/live in Japan) |
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| being with 1 the reason time the more you know someone the more fun it is. (Canadian/live in Japan) |
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| I have done both but prefer to be with one special woman. there is nothing like the feeling of being in love with a woman who loves you back. (American/live in USA) |
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| I personally prefer to have one serious GF I see exclusively. I don't like dating many women at the same time and rarely do that. (American/39/live in Japan) |
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one lady. i have had a good friend who i had sex with sometimes because we didnt need a gf or bf at the time but sometimes we needed sexual release. i think if both of the people understand this, this kind of thing is ok. but i dont like just picking girls up for sex. it has no meaning after a while and i dont want to die of HIV or get some other byoki.
but 99% of gaijins in japan just want to get as much sex as possible so about 65% will do uwaki even if they have a gf. (33/live in Japan) |
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| I don't know anything 100%, but I do often think that I will probably someday have a Japanese wife and I would love to have a family someday too. (Canadian/27/live in Japan) |
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| I do believe in one special woman, many fun woman might sound attractive but I am way to jealous for that kind of lifestyle so I cannot ask loyality to a woman when I am not offering the same in return no? (Hollander/39/Holland) |
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| One special woman, although i havent found her yet but not into the one night stands in a huge way... (23/Denmark) |
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| I only want one special lady and to take good care of her forever. (American/47/live in USA) |
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| My ultimate goal is to settle down with one person, but I believe that one must experience many things and many people to decide what it is that makes them happy. So while I am still learning about myself and the other women, I believe it is not good to limit yourself. Of course I am not speaking of sleeping around. (American/29/USA) |
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| 殆んどの男性の回答が、もちろんたった一人の特別の女性といるのがいい！と答えていました。でも、正直なところは、複数の女性と楽しむのもいいよねといった思いを持っている男性もいるようです。それと、客観的に見て日本で複数の女性たちと遊びまくっている外国人男性たちを良くない、一緒にされたくない、とも思っているようです。 |
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| How Japanese women(GF)can get the hint from you to know that she is special
for you? |
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| She knows by the way that I look at her, the things that I do for her,
and by the way that I touch her, and I dont mean SEX! All of the true hints
come outside of the bedroom. The words that come out of a mans mouth mean
nothing! Watch what he does, if you want to know the truth. |
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| When she becomes a regular girlfriend, and gets my time. |
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| I guess that depends upon the people involved. Not all westerners or Japanese
are the same. I am not sure how its done by Japanese couples, but in the
west men tend to show their affection through doing things that their significant
other will appreciate. I think that showing affection through a combination
of doing something for her she will appreciate, like taking her to a place
she really loves, and telling her your feelings straight up is best. |
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| For me I try and show a woman that she is special to me by making extra time to spend with her and getting her gifts from the heart. Not just some random gift like a watch, handbag or jewelry. But a gift that I choose after I have gotten to know her something that I know she will see and special. |
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| She gets the hint when I tell her she is special. I think this is the same
in any culture. If you have that feeling, you should say so (but only if
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| Men should just tell a woman that she is special to him and he shouldn't
play games with her. She is his equal and he should treat her with total
respect and love. |
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| Because I pay her special attention when talking to her, maybe buy her flowers, show her I want to be with her. |
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| Basic stalking. Almost anything a stalker does would be thought of as loving and sweet if the person was the boyfriend. |
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| Once we're at a comfortable enough level together, I think body language
and silent communication speaks for itself. After all, a lot of times it's
what is NOT said that holds the most importance. |
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| Well, if she is actually coming over and spending the night once a week, and getting emails from me every day, she's the only one. If a guy doesn't mail her and tells her he can't see her again until...some time in two weeks- She's probably not the only girl. |
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| Western men are usually very forward. They will let you know easily if they like you by the way they look at you or talk. That does not mean you are "special" or that he "loves" you. It just mean he likes you or thinks that you are sexy. |
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| when i want to get to know her more than just basic things, i want to know
what she likes, i can just listen to her talk, we can stay in and still
have fun, when i want her around just to be there and make me feel liked/loved. |
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| If i keep talking to you even after we have had an argument or fight. Unless
you have had one disagreement i do not think that you can truly say you
know the other person. |
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| Well A hint if somebody is special. Well I can only talk about myself:
if I do persist in contact, communicating, asking trying, even after long
time after long distance..it doesn't matter, distance never has been an
enemy to any love, time is some enemy but with me it can take a long long
time before I gave up. SO in summary the hint is to maintain contact. |
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| Telling Japanese women that they are special, or if the work with you,
telling them they are doing a great job. I don't think Japanese men tell
Japanese women how they feel, or encourage them much. |
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| She knows she is special when i look into her eyes, cuddle her for long time, whisper in her ear "i love you". Lots of little things like that... |
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A lot of guys are lazy, and they need to be pushed, and many want to keep it going with a minimal amount of commitment so they can keep there options 'open'.
I guess in the end it's the small things that say the most, the little things that he does for you, remembers etc that let you know how he really feels about you. Many guys don't really express there feelings etc so it can be hard to know, and the ones that say all those nice things are often full of shit guys that are playin girls. If someone likes someone then they are more likely to sacrifice things, and want to be with you more than others right. |
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| I'd try hard to keep in touch after meeting, spend time together, tell
her I missed her when we weren't together, and that I was happy when we
could be. Also, I'd compliment her somewhat. |
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| I guess the special one would get special attention like all kinds of surprises (small presents...) and frequent communication and dates |
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| That is hard to explain, For me, I find that Japanese women need to be
told directly they are special because they don’t understand my hints.
When devotes more time to a woman and considers her opinion, what she has
to say as important, and then she is special. When I change my plans to
fit her schedule, she is special. When I want to see and be with her regardless
if we have sex or not then she is special. |
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| The amount of time I spend with the person and the things I do, small treasures, going on weekend trips ... I guess I like to spoil my loved one |
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| I will cook for her. |
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| Japanese GF will get the strong hint from me that she is very special.
I will be very direct in my talking to her. I will not hold back and I
will show her my true feelings. |
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| If someone is special, then you will spend more time with her/him |
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| She is not a girlfriend until she likes you but I guess the hint would be wanting to communicate with her all the time, saying beautiful things about her, and ask about her family and friends. I guess if I go to a dating site and she reponds then I know she's interested the hint is that I responded to her ad. |
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| She won't have to look for a hint, I'll be sure she understands how much
she means to me |
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| She would know, I typically can't hide those feelings. One of my faults. |
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| By the way I look at her, touch her, and treat her.. |
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| the look the touch the lil sweet nothins whispered |
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| Because I tell her. If I find someone attractive, I tell them they are
attractive. If I like someone, I tell them so. No need to be shy. |
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| When you go out with your GF who pay at the restaurant? |
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| American's answer |
With a girlfriend we help each other out, but usuallywe both pay. If I pay for a girlfriend, it is like I own her. If I pay for a first
date, it is like a bribe.(in Japan)
I usually offer to pay. But I respect a woman that want to pay her share sometimes(in Japan)
This is hard. I think theman should pay if he asks the girl out on a date. However, if you are a "couple" and have been dating a long time, then I think you should take turns or share the responsibility of paying.
I usually pay unless they get frustrated with me paying all the time in whichI will let them buy maybe one meal out of six(in Japan)
I usually pay for things with my GF, but I really appreciate it when she treats (pays) me and takes me out. Men and women are equal in the West, soguys like their girls to take care of dinner or a night out too.
I guess I'm still living in the chivalrous age, as I almost always tend to pay for everything. That isn't to say I'm the perfect gentleman, though I firmly believe in taking full care of your loved ones.(in Japan)
I pay usually-because I am a sucker. But I'm re-thinking it. (in Japan)
Haha this is sort of a tricky answer but this is how i do it... when the meal is over and i receive the check, i prefer that the girl at least ask to pay, or began to reach for her purse. just to show that she is willing, it shows that she would like to be a part of the date, but of course i pay the bill especially on a date.(in Japan)
Until things are serious I believe in 割り勘. Even when things are serious,guys should not have to pay for all things all the time.(in Japan)
I pay 90% of the time. Instead, I would prefer my GF to surprise me with a gift or a something niceevery now and then. (in Japan)
That really depends on our incomes, more than anything. I pay for my ex-girlfriend when we go out together, too, because she's still a student and thus poor. Still, I always pay for myself... I guess I'd consider not doing that if I dated a rich woman, though.(in Japan)
I always pay (I am not an English teacher so I have money)(in Japan)
I always pay when I take GF to restaurant.
If she is a friend then she usually pays for herself but as for a girlfriend I always pay unless she is buying for my birthday.
Generally I pay; though, I also like to be treated.
I pay.
I usually pay, but if it is a special day like my birthday, then I don't mind if she pays.(in Japan)
I pay for the dinner and or entertainment
I like to pay, of course if my girlfriend wants to help out.....I will not stop her. Why cause friction over something as simple as who wants to pay? |
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| English's answer |
I think that depends on hopw long I've been going out with her.If it's the beginning I'd want to pay... otherwise I like to share... feel that money is more in common.
As a married man, naturally I only go to restaurants with my wife... ;-) Normally the one who has the most money in their wallet pays - it doesn't really matter. If I was on a date with somebody else, I'd probably pay half + alpha.(in Japan) |
| Other European's answer |
I pay,but not everytime!!!
because I go to restaurant very often.(French in Japan)
I can pay 1, 2, 3 times, then she's gone. No parassites, thank you.(Italian in Japan)
I prefer her to pay for both(Spanish in Japan)
haha good one a japanese girl asked me once. Well I tell you, in Holland a girl would be insulted if you pay for her, keep the door open for her etc. They can do it themselves and doing it for them would mean you consider them as the weaker part, the unselfsupporting, things women in my country are raised as being as independent as possible. So...
but I think Holland is small and in many european countries they would think different. Adn as it is a long long time ago I had a relation with a girl from my country I have learned how to behave hahaha. I always pay, also luxury things as I have never cared about money anyway, even when I didn't had money(Holland)
i pay(France)
pay at the restaurantand let her buy me coffee or something,shes my princess, i want to make her feel like one when I can.(Denmark)
First date(s) : I pay. Then after a few dates, it is not unusual to let pay from time to time or to share....(French in Japan)
I pay(Holland)
I pay for both.Like a polite gentleman.(Poland)
One time me.. one time her...(Italian) |
| Oceanian's answer |
both pay.(Australian in Japan)
When dating I would split the bill. But I always try to pay more becuase I would eat and drink more. If we go to the movies, I would pay.(AU)
To be very honest it all depends how I feel about the girl. But, and this is the silly part, if she offers to pay, or she looks like she is going to pay half, then more then more than likely I'll pay. I don't like girls that expect things. I'll pay if I like you, and I want to, not because I'm supposed to. It's just like giving a compliment, I give a compliment because I feel it, and I want to...I don't like to be insincere and say things that I don't feel or believe oseiji iranai!!! Usually though I’ll pay though...at least at the start, but I think that that is normal.(NZlander in japan)
I pay(AU) |
| Canadian's answer |
In North America it is customary for males to pay for females on dates. That said, once the relationship is established it is not uncommon to split the cost or rotate who pays for the expenses of the date. I would do it at first but once I became officially known as 'boyfriend' then I would just see what she was comfortable with.(in Japan)
Guys should pay most of the time for dinner,but not all. (in Japan)
Usually I pay. But that is not a set rule. (in Japan) |
| Other's answer |
I pay or both pays if we wants...(Brazil)
I pay when out with a girl
I prefer to pay, and some Japanese girls I find are not used to being treated as if they are special and they like to pay half but I usually insist and pay for her. In my opinion, I asked her out and she is my guest. Even a GF, I like and enjoy taking care of my woman.
I usually pay, but I appriciate the once in a while when a GF invites me out and pays for it... Give some, take some, it's a good balance. If I always pay, I would feel a bit weird about it |
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Do you have any request about contraceptive?
How different between Western women and Japanese women? |
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| I use condoms, and not just for pregnancy, I don't need HIV and there is a lot of HIV in Japan so better want out I say. |
| Condoms - not just to prevent pregnancy. (The difference? Depends on the man or woman, maybe...) |
| Condom's work just fine. The Pill is good to control PMS and keep regular, so thats my preference. |
| Pregnancy is a very serious thing and so is contraception（避妊）. In the West most young women take contraceptive pills（避妊薬） so that they are unable to become pregnant. Here, in Japan, these pills are not used very much and so I think condoms are the most popular contraceptive. I think the most important thing is to talk about contraction before making love. This way there is no confusion. ※この意見にはKaoriも賛成です。行いをする前に、避妊に関してちゃんと恥ずかしがらずに話をしてみましょうね！ |
| There are at least four ways to prevent pregancy: a) Condoms outside of a relationship; the pill, a ring, or a spirale inside a relationship. ring ってなに？？？マイルーラーのこと？What is a ring? |
| Using contraceptive is better. I guess pill is best because it's the most reliable one, and it allows to have sex without condoms, which feels much better in my opinion. But condoms are fine too, and probably easier to obtain. |
I don't know much about differences. I've spent most of my adult life in
Japan and with only three partners in long relationships. Condoms plus pill is best.
At least in my last relationship the woman was insisting(主張する） that the pill was good for keeping her cycles regular, and less painful. |
when I 1st get with a partner I use condoms. Once we have established trust（確信をもつ） (and taken an STD test if we feel it's necessary) I prefer to switch to avoiding pregnancy by being careful during sex. After I have made my partner cum, I will stop regular sex to make sure I don't cum inside and then cum by either oral or anal.
※STDテスト＝STDとは英語の頭文字をとったもので、「性感染症」（性病）のことを意味します。（STIと呼ばれることもあります）Sexually（性により） Transmitted（感染する） Diseases（病気）
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| japanese women rarely use the Pill. Many american women use it even if they don't have a regular BF (it helps control their periods). In Japan, the only real choice is condoms, but the Pill is best for guys because we are selfish. |
| i find that they are both the same. if she doesn't what to be on the pill
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| The condom is always the best prevention in my opinion. In terms of avoiding pregnancy, I think a condom along with knowing the girl's cycle is important. |
| The best way to prevent pregnancy is not to have vaginal intercourse（膣性交） and wait until you are ready for the responsibility. その時期がくるまでしないってことですね。 |
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| My friend said it best..."As long as there is a handful, I dont care." I honestly think men dont care about breasts as long as the girl is hot. Of course they have to have SOMETHING to hold onto and stare at because that is part of what makes a woman feminine. Having said that, a man will always stare at big breasts... I guess that's just the way we are wired. I do it sometimes and I dont even like big breasted women. |
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| I don't really care about size, but I like girls who get off on having their breasts sucked etc. It's not good when girls don't like guys to give their breasts special attention. Some Japanese girls are too worried about their small breasts so they try to hide them during sex. There's nothing to be shy about so they shouldn't worry. Not all gaijin girls have big tits either. |
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| Breats are all good - whatever the size. My last girlfriend had breat implants and though they looked and felt good they were strange in that when I touched her breats she didn`t really react... |
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| Not really, but better small than too big. (gravitation) :-) |
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| I don't really care about size. I care more about them being nicely shaped, and most of all being sensitive, because I love giving pleasure to my partner by caressing or licking them. |
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hmmm... not really. |
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| I really don't care so much about breasts. Face is most important, good legs are very nice too. |
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| Don't really care....other parts are more important. |
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| Breast size? yes I like big breasts and large nipples, I can enjoy myself more and its a real turn on, why? I'm not sure. But I've had girlfriends with small breasts too and it7s not the only thing about a womans body that I like so bust size isnt the priority. |
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Bust size? hmmm well I do get stimulated by seeing nicely sized breasts but...I've had GFs of all cup sizes.
To tell the truth It's a womans nipples that turn me on the most, regardless of her bust size.
I like other attributes about a womans body equally so..like beautiful hands or long figers etc...I could go on but I don't wanna embarass myself here. |
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| Size doesn't mean as much as shape. |
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| doesn't matter too much to me, but i would rather small perkey breasts then large saggy ones. |
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| I would not rule out a girl just because of her breast size, unless they were just far too big. I actually prefer breasts that are a little on the smaller size. More important than size is the shape. |
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| Breast size does not matter to me. If they are larger than mine is fine with me, and mine are not big at all, LOL !! |
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| Definitley not. I am not a clubbing fan since there is all kinds of drugs there but if she wants to go with her girlfriends once in a while that would suit me fine. I prefer the latin dancing (tango, fox trot...) kind of clubbing/dancing. (American/43/live in USA) |
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| As in Paris Hilton? Definitley not. But, a girl that would like to go to a club once in a while(not every week), special occasion would suit me fine. (American/39/live in USA) |
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| No.I hate full time club girls (Pole/21/Poland) |
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| It's ok if she is a club girl. Just as long as she's not going there every night. (American/28/live in Japan) |
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| I like a girl who knows how to have fun, but also knows when it is time to be serious. So yes, I do like a club girl, but not club everynight. (American/29/live in USA) |
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| As long as she doesn't live there (Aussii/40/live in Australia) |
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| That would be great for us.. but I'll let the girl (or my wife to be) decide for herself.(28/live in USA) |
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| No but occaionally is ok (American/38/live in USA) |
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If you met someone on InterNet, and felt something special to her (she lives in Japan) ........
What you will do/plan to meet her in person?
I have had this situations sometimes and heard some stories from my friends also...
if both started to feel atracted to each other, they will wish to meet....
What you will suggest fot it?
A1. you come to see her in japan
A2. you want her to visit you in your place
A3. she and you have plan to meet in another country(not japan, not your country)
A4. maybe this situation will not be happend
A5. I am not interested in meeting someone on InterNet
A6. other
What do you think? |
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| Go to Japan and meet her firstly and see how it goes. Maybe afterwards she can come to my country to see the culture there. And basically take it from there. |
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Since I am already planning on living in Japan, let me speak as if I was not going to do that:
I would meet her in Japan first. Since traveling to another country is already enough to make someone nervous, but then traveling to a country where you do not know anybody and to meet someone whom you have only spoken with online.....I would think it is a frightening experience. So I would take it upon myself to do the traveling the first time. After that and if there is a strong connection, then perhaps trade off who visits who. Of course if things go really well.....then I guess myself or the young lady would have to consider relocating to the others homeland. |
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A1. you come to see her in japan-YES
A2. you want her to visit you in your place-IF SHE WANRS TO
A3. she and you have plan to meet in another country(not japan, not your country)-MAYBE |
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| It would depend on the situation at the time. I'd probably travel to Japan first, but I would also like her to come here as well, as this is where I'd prefer to live. |
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| I think a visit would be necessary. If one party travels to the others country for business or other, a meet could and should be arranged. If neither travels, some other compromise would have to be reached. |
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| What type of alchole would you like to drink with Japanese girl? |
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| It would depend on the date or situation. Sake or beer if it is a casual date. If it is more romantic, maybe some nice wine. |
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| The usual considerations...depends upon the circumstance or meal...but, without any such constraints...whatever she was in the mood for. |
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| I am happy to drink whatever the lady feels comfortable with...wine usually seems to be the choice of drink in England. |
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| It would all depend on where we go. I usually drink whiskey. But if beer, sake or wine is the only think availible then that would be fine. |
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My answer to this is Red wine. My favorites are Syrah, Merlot, or Zinfindel.
My favorite Minnesota wine is Frontenac and Foch is a close second. |
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| What is your ideal date you would like to do with Japanese girl? (japanlike
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| maybe go out for a nice dinner and then walk through a park and have a nice conversation. |
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| My last one was 2 days driving through the Kii peninsula, because that's what she wanted to do. If you want to show a lady a good time, find out what she considers a good time to be... and go do it. |
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| Maybe lunch somewhere picturesque....then a walk along the river to an art gallery...followed by some drinks somewhere... |
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| Having a nice dinner somewhere then going out for a walk through a park or something to get to know each other better. |
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If it is a first date then something simple like coffee/tea and something sweet (cake, pie, pastry), then a walk by the lake so we can talk to find out about each other.
If dating for a while it could be dinner, movie, dancing, theater, museum, and my favorite is a day trip to Lake Superior or some small town to find antiques. |
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About make love with your GF (not casual partner for only fun)...
how often you prefer to do it with your GF/Wife? |
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